Letting go is the essence of meditation. Thoughts, emotions, ideas, opinions, beliefs, emotions, sensations are all to be observed, explored and then let go.
People often think they’ve ‘got it’. They know how to ‘do meditation’. This is a mistake. As soon as you think you’ve got ‘it’, whatever you think ‘it’ is, you’re probably mistaken. You have an idea of what meditation is about, but ideas are just that: ideas. Ideas are not facts.
Reality is in a state of flux and change from moment to moment. You’d be better off thinking you have an idea of how to meditate, and the idea may turn out to be right or wrong – you’re going to find out and see what happens.
When start paying attention to our inner experience, we discover that there are certain thoughts and feelings that the mind wants to hold on to. If they are pleasant we try to prolong these thoughts or feelings, stretch them out, and imaging them again and again. Similarly there are many thoughts and feelings and experiences we try to get rid of to prevent ourselves form having painful and frightening experiences once again.
Letting go is not such an alien experience. We do it every night when we go to sleep. If we can't let go we can't sleep. Most of us would have experienced times when the mind would not just shutdown when we got into bed. At these times we may be unable to free ourselves from certain thoughts because our involvement in them is just too worse. If we try to force ourselves to sleep, it just makes things worse. The harder you try tougher it becomes. Just let go ! things will be much easier. You will swim into to a peaceful sleep in no time.
Mindfulness becomes easier when we let go of our mind the attachments and aversions !