Non-striving is difficult to grasp, if you’re immersed in a hyper-competitive, goal-oriented society. Whatever we do has a purpose, to attain something or reach somewhere. But, this attitude can be a stumbling block in mindfulness meditative practice. Basically meditation is a non-doing, even though some amount of work and energy is required for it. It is not about achieving relaxation, calmness or bliss. Being mindful has no goal other than for you to be yourself.
Jon Kabat-zinn writes:
This may appear paradoxical and little crazy. Yet this paradox and craziness may be pointing toward a new way of seeing yourself, one in which you are trying less and being more. The irony is you are already there.
For example, if you sit down to meditate and you think, “I am going to get relaxed, or get enlightened, or control my pain, or become a better person,” then you have an introduced an idea into your mind of where you should be, along with it comes the notion that you are not okay right now. “If I were only more calm, or more intelligent, or a hard worker, or more this or more that, if only my heart were healthier or my knee were better, then I would be okay. Right now I am not okay.” This attitude undermines the cultivation of mindfulness, which involves simply paying attention to whatever is happening.